How to shift from being unfulfilled and frustrated to get more out of life and lead a life of purpose? ( for professional women)
I have struggled with how to write this post. Every time I write, a cliché appears like “30 days to life purpose and confidence building”’ with this step by step guide… But I delight in sharing with you that my words are genuine and that gaining confidence to pursue the lifestyle of your dream can happen quicker than you think.
I am usually a very private person, and yet I felt compelled to share my personal story with you. If someone told me four years ago that I would make it a mission to tell my story to as many professional women as I could meet, I would have certainly laughed at them. But dear reader, I am sitting here looking at the way my life unfolded these past few years, and I couldn't be more delighted to have achieved a lifestyle of purpose, freedom, and fulfillment. It is with total honesty that I share my journey with you because I believe that you too, the beautiful soul reading this, is here on this planet to do some powerful things. And whatever dreams you are envisioning, can manifest even faster than you might think. I am here to show you how you can move forward and the exact steps to take to achieve your dreams.
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I`ve always been very ambitious and driven in my life. Back in my twenties, very few people would understand my need to search for more and live more. I was told, being a woman that having a family was success and accomplishment enough.
Matter of fact, when I told my friends and my family how unsatisfied I was with my life and how things felt mundane, some of them started to mock me and it hurt. I remember my closed one saying to me that I couldn’t hope for better and that I was selfish.
I knew deep down that I wasn’t living my life purpose. I was 29 then, and I remember feeling unhappy for a while. Despite all the appearances, I was engaged to a very nice guy; I had a nice career as a process engineer that got me to travel to some very beautiful places, I felt empty and uninspired. I was depressed, and I felt like life was excruciating. I was putting on an act every day, lying to the people around me, pretending to enjoy my life when all I could feel was stress and anxiety. In reality, the environment at work was draining and exhausting, and it sucked the will to exist out of me. I was bored, and my current course of action in life didn`t make sense to me anymore. I felt I wasn’t contributing to the world around me at all. Worst, I`ve always identified with sustainable/green living, and here I was, managing factories waste for profit. I had secret expectations of how people should treat me, and I felt let down most of the time from my closest ones. I didn't feel they would understand me. They were not supportive and it undermined me. I escaped my misery by binge eating, watching TV and over procrastinating on pretty much everything (every task at work, every personal interaction became a burden). I hit rock bottom. I was 60 lbs overweight, I broke up with my then to be husband, I had less and less friends as I started to distance myself from everyone, even my parents, and the worst ( at least for me) was that I was told during one of my performance reviews that my work performances were not up to par anymore ( I couldn’t really care less to be honest. In my head, I was through with it). I had lost my drive, I had lost my MOJO, and I didn`t know why. I thought something was wrong with me. All I knew was that there were dissatisfaction and unhappiness with the way my life was going, and that I needed to make some changes. I was left with one question: What was my life purpose? I felt confused and overwhelmed about the things I didn`t know, and desperate to find the answer to my question. I felt that there were too many things I needed to take into consideration, but I didn’t know where to start. I had also fear based thinking, and I knew deep down that I had to face some uncomfortable truths; I had to step outside what I knew and was comfortable in doing and risk failure in my new ventures. The unbearable thought of living a mundane and un-flavorful life for more years to come prompted me to seek changes proactively. I spent countless hours reading and researching the best self-help books; I hired several coaches, took several coaching certifications, looked for mentors and like-minded friends and peers; I joined mastermind groups of women who were proactively working on living their life purpose. I learned a lot about myself, my unique human design and strengths. Then, came the light bulb moment for me, I found out that I was here on earth to teach and facilitate changes in people so that they too can find their purpose. I was here to help and guide people based on my experiences and the lessons I have learned along my journey.
Let me share with you the common beliefs and challenges that are preventing many professional women from pursuing their life purpose.
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First, let me assure you that all happens in divine timing. It’s never too late for you.
I hear professional women tell me all the time that they are too old and didn’t have a chance to prove their capabilities. They believe Life has passed them by and it’s too late for them-
Bitterness and resentment happen when we stop believing. You will start to see the world as a hostile and disappointing place, and if you don’t do anything about it, soon your view will affect your entire life from your relationships to your health. Things will turn sour over time.
I too thought the same until I uncovered my life purpose. Your life purpose lies at the intersection of your life mission, passion, and unique talent. Register for a free 30 min discovery session here and uncover your purpose today. I was struggling to discover it for two years by myself and all it took for me to shift was to seek advice from a life purpose coach. Things changed overnight for me
The time, space, energy to achieve your purpose will clear out themselves once you gain more clarity
This is a very typical problem for us professional woman out there, especially if we have a family and other responsibilities that need our attention. Let’s be honest; we have to face what is, as well as the duties of our current reality.
When we are too focused on our responsibilities and other distractions that life throws at us, we gradually lose ourselves and our inspirations. Our life will become more and more off balance.
That is precisely what happened to me when I lost my MOJO back. I had to redefine what was important to me, and more importantly WHY it was important to me. Once I gained this clarity of mind, I was able to make the right choices and decide which things I needed to stop doing with ease and flow. Schedule a discovery call with me here to help you uncover your WHY’s, and finally reach the clarity that will help you shift your life and live in alignment with your purpose
It is possible to become your best self and overcome your darkest destructive behaviors. It is a matter of developing the right mindset for success.
Despite our will to take action and our eagerness to pursue our life purpose proactively, some of us are trapped in the web of past habits, and self-destructive behaviors that seem insurmountable. Doubts, paralyzing fears, anxiety, depression, procrastination are common topics during my coaching sessions.
When we give into these counteractive and debilitating habits, we are constantly prone to encounter the feelings of guilt and shame, which in turn can keep us in a negative downward spiral of more self-destructive habits and more guilt. If we let this vicious cycle go on, our lives and self-esteem can be forever crippled in so many ways.
I’ve experienced it firsthand. The way to move past all of this is release past hurt and memories from your subconscious mind and body, and it doesn’t have to be complicated. I trained in hypnotherapy as well as mind hacking techniques, and I know what it takes to create long-lasting changes. Schedule a discovery call with me here so we can work on what’s holding you back from actively pursuing your life purpose.
You too can find your tribe that will support you and build you up
It is easy to feel let down and not believe in yourself, especially when you are surrounded by people who don’t completely understand your dreams or even get you.
The risk of revolving around negative people is that they can influence you to play small and you’ll end up doubting yourself moreover, making your dreams and aspirations look impossible to achieve. The reality is that if you listen to negative people, you’ll never be or do enough, no matter what you do to conform to their point of view ( Yes, I know it hurts, especially if your loved ones doubt you)
Often, you will have to look for support outside of your immediate environment, but it is so worth it. Despite some negative people in your life, the key here is to focus on finding and reinforcing the relationship with the positive ones. When your path starts to cross equally brilliant, supportive and nurturing women, things will start to shift quickly for you as you will be able to gather ideas and resources faster. Nowadays, It is simpler and easier to find the right peers for you, you could join a mastermind or even create one, find a mentor or hire a coach. You could also join my private LinkedIn or Facebook groups of women who are proactively working toward their dreams here.
You too can figure out what to do and how to do things to ensure success even if you have no ideas where to start now!
I also often hear many professional women say that they are having trouble seeing the big picture and feel very overwhelmed on getting started on a long process. A lot of them are wondering where to find enough resources to fund their projects.
It is natural to feel confused or overwhelmed, especially when you don’t have clarity on what’s the right path is, yet. Furthermore, you can be pulled in so many direction, worries and dead ends that will end up draining all your will and energy and you won’t be able to accomplish anything in the end.
Making an inventory of your resources and priorities, being clear on your why’s and having a step-by-step plan, for your aspirations, that rely on your strengths is essential if you want to stay focused and accomplish anything. My years of experience as a process engineer can be put to good use here and help you create an actionable strategy that will enable you to reach your freedom lifestyle quickly and with ease. Anything is possible with the right approach. It is a matter of being objective on what resources you already have at your disposition you are not using to their full extent. It also boils down to finding out the right leverages that will propel you to success. You don’t have to figure it out alone. In fact, to succeed, you will need support. Schedule a discovery call with me here so we can work on creating the right plan for your success.
Confidence is a skillset that can be developed. You can learn to believe in yourself...
The last but the least of the problem that many professional women encounter that are holding them back from proactively pursuing their purpose is their lack of confidence. I hear them say often that they don’t believe in themselves nor their abilities. “
Having confidence is a key ingredient to success. When you lack confidence, you won’t be able to ask for what you deserve and will always end up for settling for less than what you’re worth. You will encounter a lack of respect in any situation because you don’t allow this regard for yourself. Imagine living your entire life in the shadows, knowing that you can have and be so much more. Isn’t that a dreadful thought? I was lacking confidence and thought for years that I was undeserving and not worthy of success. I believed that having confidence was a trait of character that you were born with. But, once I understood confidence for what it is, a skillset and started to develop it, I was amazed by the things I was able to accomplish. I want the same for you, and I will teach you how, you too, can build your confidence. Register for my free presentation on confidence here.
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Here I am writing this blog four years later, and my life has transformed in ways I could never imagine possible. I lost the 60 lbs. I moved away from my engineering position, and I am now doing what feels right for me. Yes, I became a full-time life purpose coach who helps professional women find their soul purpose and live a life full of inspiration and freedom. The best thing is that it doesn’t feel like work and I get to meet inspiring, beautiful people from all other the world. I got married to the most wonderful man on earth, and my relationships are energizing and fulfilling. More importantly, I am now able to contribute and share my gifts with the world. Part of my income goes to a charitable foundation in Madagascar, my birth country. I have found my MOJO, and I wake up every morning feeling grateful and with a sense of anticipation of the many great things that will come my way.
If you read this far, I am guessing that you too, are a woman that believes that there are more in life than what you are living now. You have a strong desire to contribute and to live your purpose, whether you know it or you don`t know it yet. I am with you here; I believe that you can make the world a better place one purpose at a time. It all starts with learning to believe in yourself and building a sense of self-confidence and certainty in your abilities to achieve your dreams, no matter the delays, roadblocks, or fears. That is exactly what I had to do so you could read this post today. This is why I am so excited to introduce you to your journey so that we can work together on creating a beautiful and meaningful life where you will be able to share your unique purpose and gifts to the world.
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